I have spoken to countless women about this.
You know what they say?
You know what you all say?
Money is the determining factor.
As a society, we use money to determine things.
He earns more, so we thought he should work.
There is no point in me working because it doesn’t make financial sense.
He made the decision to buy the warehouse because he makes the money.
We moved three times for his career.
I conceived and so a career wasn’t an option.
Who earns more money, seems to call the shots.
And women especially seem to feel this the most, once they have children.
Because they aren’t earning money, their sense of worth plummets.
They toss their power, their self worth and arguments out the window.
Because. He earns.
Using money to decide worth is the WORST call you can make.
Your worth is in who you are.
Is in how loving you feel towards yourself.
How contented you are.
And if that means, putting the kids in childcare at an additional financial cost, so you can get some hours away from the home and engage with the world and feel HAPPY, then, your family is going to see the benefits of that.
Don’t let money be the only measure.
There are so many more measures. We need to give them more priority.
Or we’ll have more depression and damaged children.