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Prioritising How You Spend Your Money

On August 3, 2016

In Aware, How To Be Mindful, Money, Woman To Woman

If you’re thinking about prioritising how you spend your money, this post might help. Not that I’ve got it all under control (yet!). But I’m slowly getting there are breakneck turtle pace…

SUPER IMPORTANT
Feeding yourself with good food for your mind and body
(Ideally organic because it’s unlikely to mess with your body, it’ll just be good for it)

Nourishing your mind so you can elevate the quality of your life, mediation, psychologists, teachers, exploration

Taking time out from responsibilities and daily cycles (let the washing happen tomorrow for once)
IMPORTANT

Time with the people you love

LESS IMPORTANT BUT STILL HAS IT’S PLACE

Beautifying yourself to a balance that makes you love you

Books and learning

NOT REALLY IMPORTANT OR NECESSARY AT ALL

(Might even be detrimental – or could be delayed, once you’re sure you’re done prioritising how you spend your money)

Another TV remote

More toys

An avocado slicer

A garlic peeler or crusher (unless you eat a lot of Italian)

Those new culotte jeans

Another diamond ring

Stella Mac Cartney for Adidas tights

//

I’m a sucker. I do give in to the last list. A lot lately.

But I’m trying to get better.

To listen more to my sides and ignore the outsides.

I might just print this and whack it onto my fridge 🙂

If all of the above fails, do a round of donations at Salvos. Nothing like cleaning out your wardrobe to let you know how much you already have.

Xx

K

Materials & Other Thoughts

By karishma

On June 13, 2016

In Aware, Money, People & Land

It seems we are so focused on our outward appearance.
The forms of our bodies.

The cars we drive.

The diamonds we own.
I find it disturbing.

That we focus so little on the inside.

On our minds.
Here are somethings I’ve observed in the last few days.
We put no priority on rest for the mind.

It must keep going on, keep delivering. No rest aside from sleep.
We don’t ask ourselves, “Why are we going on a holiday?”

What experiences will this bring us (Instagram shots, yes I know) – but how will this make me happier from the inside?
V is going to India and my first thought is, “What all can I order online so he can pick it up for me!” I have no gaps, no true needs. Saris galore, bindis galore, jewels galore. I feel it is enough. But why will more bring me happiness? Why do I want new things?
Why aren’t we asking these questions and finding answers?
And I realised a big thing.
Half the time, we don’t even know that we’re thinking about it. It’s going on, round and round, doing u-turns, hook-turns and figure 8 loops in our minds.
And because we never get to the core, we never find a new level.

Our minds never elevate.
They’re stuck.
I read somewhere recently, that the more things we have, the unhappiness they bring with them.
They take up space, so you need a bigger house.

They require maintenance, so you need more time for dusting and cleaning.

They hide other things you had, so now you think you need another hoodie because of all the jackets that are concealing the original hoodie (yes, this happened to me).
I’m not saying we don’t need anything.

I’m just wondering,
Why.

Is it because we can afford it?

Is it because we think we’ll be the happier for it?
Xx

K

Leaders

By karishma

On June 6, 2016

In Advice from the Oldies, Aware, Career, Entrepreneurship, Money

If you behave like a father to your employee, be prepared for her to behave like a daughter.
If you behave like a friend to your employee, be prepared for her to behave like a friend. If you behave like a sister to your employee, be prepared for her to behave like a sister.

But.

In all instances, you will inevitably find, that you would actually like an employee, to behave as an employee.

So be a leader for once.

Leadership is lonely, especially for those of us seeking approval, seeking a casual conversation or hoping to strike up a friendship.

But.

I’m told, it’s worth it in the long run.

And I have a feeling, it will be.
Xx

K

Ego

By karishma

On May 19, 2016

In Aware, Career, Entrepreneurship, Money, Motherhood, Woman To Woman

As I’ve been getting a little more into my work and spending a little less time with Aru, I’ve been observing changes.

And they aren’t just wardrobe changes.

I feel like when you’re a mother, you have very little ego.

And it’s not just because a little person is wiping their snot on your tee and because you’re hiding unshaven legs in everyday denims.

But.

You’re at the beck and call.

Of someone. A little person.

And it simply doesn’t feel important.

No matter how you call it, wiping poos and feeding little mouths just doesn’t feel as hefty as leveraging your contacts to find the perfect talent for a client or walking into a building on Collins Street with a shift dress, mascara and talking to men in suits.

It just doesn’t. To me.

And I know this is about perception, society and media at work.

I know it is the most important, fundamental, incredible role I can ever play in my life.

But.

As I’ve worked more, I’ve earnt more. And I’ve watched my ego grow.

I sometimes find it in my hips, the confidence, the sass. Resting on each curve. Right there.

And I asked an aunt of mine.

What do I do? When that ego rests on my curves? When it feels heavy with power and influence?

To the point where it starts cutting in.

When my curves get sharp.

Knifed and cruel.

Painful and edged.

She said to me.

Acknowledge it’s there.

The simple acknowledgement acts like a security guard.

Saying, “I’m here. And I’m watching you.”

So I’m starting here.

Trying to be mindful of the arrogance.

Mindful of the ego.

Wary of the way it changes me.

My tone. My words. My sass.

xx K

Failure / Learning

By karishma

On May 17, 2016

In Aware, Career, Entrepreneurship, Family, Money, People & Land, The Sexes, Woman To Woman

~~I failed last week, when I lost my temper.~~

I learnt last week, that it’s so essential to speak in a calm tone when the energy of the moment has subsided to something more casual.

~~I failed when I had to shut down one of my businesses.~~

I learnt that for me, running a business needs to be worth the profit you create and a product range isn’t the answer (in the meantime anyways).

~~I failed when I lost my patience with Aru and had to walk away.~~

I learnt that it’s good to walk away from Aru and give V a call if I need a break or distract myself by giving him a walk about or a mini video or sometime on the learning tower.

~~I failed when I had that shot of whiskey and my body curdled.~~

I learnt that for me, whiskey is too strong now. My body doesn’t have the same tolerance it used to and I’m likely to fall sick or feel exhausted with all the heat it generates in my body.

//

If we feared failure less, we would be more open to it.

And we’d be learning more as a result.

Go ahead and fail.

Go ahead and learn.

X K

Women & Things (For Fathers & Husbands Alike)

By karishma

On May 13, 2016

In Aware, Family, Fatherhood, Money, Woman To Woman

This might sound extremely sexist.

But there are a lot of women who are financially managed by their husbands and their parents.

I should know, I was one of them.

I didn’t want to look at the books. Never checked the credit card balance. Signed documents and never read them.It was all too hard. Not my core area of interest.

I wanted a lot. Holidays, clothes, jewels, sauces, erotica and all forms of exotica.

My list just didn’t end.

And it was so unsatisfying.

Want. Want. Want.
I’m not that woman anymore.
With on going counselling, we’ve come a long way.

Some part of the magic is this…
When a woman wants things, tell her yes. Yes with consequence.

Tell her, yes. You earn and it’s yours.

Tell her, yes. This can happen and there is a budget to make it happen. Let’s work within it.

Tell her, yes. You carry it home and it’s yours.

Tell her, yes. You find the space for it and manage it and it’s yours.

Tell her, yes. Look at the bank account and tell us how we can fit it in.

Tell her, yes.

Because when you say “no”, the list will never end.

With every “no”, there is more she wants.

You are creating in her a subconscious need that will never be filled unless you replace the “no’s” with “yes'” and enable her to make her own decisions. And she will make mistakes. Like the jewels she never wears or the shoes that are too high. But every time she looks at those mistakes, she’ll learn.

And in the learning, she’ll find her balance.

Xx

K

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